Motherhood to Different Women

It is always been an overwhelming situation whenever I come to know that someone is pregnant. A blend of feelings; love, pain, excitement, anxiousness and sense of relief comes all together in one package. However, the question of admiring motherhood and not going for it remains under debate for many. Let me take you through the glance of different women that how do they perceive it.

First one is my dear friend Khushi. Her biggest dream of her life is to give birth to another human being. The idea of getting married does not seem that fascinating to her as compare to the idea and process that she is capable enough to produce another living being. Her this desire makes me fall in love with her dream.

Second is my teacher. She said once “Being a mother is a huge responsibility but its that much rewarding that you hardly care about being responsible for the whole life time”. Her thought makes clear sense to me. I have seen mothers who suffer day and night for their children but the moment they see their child, their happiness turns out to be the most rewarding thing in their life.

Tying knot with bamboos for support

Third is Ms. Rabail (I recently met with her). In the world where “Do bachy khushhaal khnadan” notion gets admired, she doesn’t seem applying it on herself. She thinks at least six kids must be there to make home noisy and joyful. She said “do say bhi koi ronak hoti hy kia?” Her this statement made me to imagine a family with many kids, and that was full of fun and screams. Nonetheless, I enjoyed my imagination where age of kids varied from 12 years to 2 months.

All the above thoughts seem beautiful and blissful. However, motherhood or parenting have always appeared very different to me. In my opinion, being a mother is not only about giving a birth; it is a lifelong emotional and physical relation where you love (selflessly), care, protect and nurture another human being. I wonder sometimes, grape wine plant of my terrace was more intelligent than human. It was not giving a fruit unless the support of bamboos was there. Similarly, nurturing environment and sense of security is essential in the decision to become a mother. I believe, its not only food, shelter or education which you suppose to give your children; embracing their being and helping them to become emotionally and physically healthy are important. I believe, carrying and feeding a child are not enough to qualify for a mother. It must be more than that.